For the relationship that once was.

I am asking for prayer for a relationship that I have been in for four years. I have loved Caitlyn for four years, and have extended her an unconditional love through grace and forgiveness on several situations (as we all must do with one another). And yet, when it came time for Caitlyn to make the choice to extend forgiveness back to me, she decided to leave. Since the separation, it still stands in her mind that although she still thinks about me every day and still “loves” me, she feels that the line had to be drawn. She feels that unconditional love doesn’t involve having to extend that love even when one is hurt. She verbally admitted that she has only been seeking the Lord’s guidance “half-heartedly”, because she is afraid of letting go of the control over her life, with any pain or hurt that might come with that.


I say none of this in anger toward her, as I continue to unconditionally love Caitlyn through this entire ordeal. I am asking for prayer for Cait, that the Lord gives her a spirit of brokenness, that she will fully understand the grace, love, and forgiveness that God has granted her, and that He in turn calls us to give to each other. "God doesn’t love us because we are lovable…He loves us because it is in His nature to do so."


May prayers be lifted that I am put at peace through all this, and that I am not rendered useless in the ministry opportunities that I have in front of me. That these thoughts and emotions are continually submitted to the Father and that they do not get in the way of the work that God has called me to RIGHT NOW. That I do not feel “cheated” for not being in that relationship today, since everything is given exactly as the Lord sees fit.


Pray that the voice of the Holy Spirit speaks louder in Caitlyn’s life than any counsel she is receiving from others that is not in line with the Scripture. That she seeks after counsel that is not simply what she wants to hear, but that is from the Lord. May it infiltrate her life, pierce her heart, and move throughout her in a way that she has never known before.


Please pray that I rest in the promise from the Lord that this is all happening for very specific reasons. That I may continue growing in the intimacy with the Holy Spirit that has been granted. That these feelings and desires of Caitlyn as my future bride are submitted to Him, and that the promise stands that He will bring what is best for me. The Lord wants to give us bread, not stones. Pray that I may trust in the promise of that Holy bread from the Lord.


Pray that I may continue to be a diligent and strong prayer warrior for Cait right now, as the Lord has guided me to do so. God is in the business of reconciliation and healing. He is able to transform hearts and circumstances in an instant. But through this all, pray that I continue to grow as God sees fit, preparing me for the future wife that He has in store for me and that I may fall in step with His commandments deeper every day.


Thank you all immensely for your prayers – prayer is such a blessing (and a weapon!) that is granted from the Lord that we need to utilize on a constant basis. I am encouraged and uplifted by this prayer circle, this family that we have been blessed with through the love and grace of our Father. May He get all the honor and glory for what is to happen.

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08/02/08 - 12:14

Leslie

Dear Father, Humbly I ask for your will here, for you know whether you have joined a man and a woman for your purpose or whether it was done by human desire alone. Thank you that in all things, we can learn from the choices we have made in life and you can show us where we have followed your will or our own. Father, thank you for your mercy and forgiveness for the countless decisions I have made without consciously seeking your will. Thank you for the lessons you have taught me. Please bless the couples in these prayer circles who are learning to "Let go and let God." Please give us the strength to turn our will and our lives over to your care, in Jesus' name, amen.

07/22/08 - 20:38

Eina

Dear Lord,
Please bless this couple. You alone can change circumstances in an instant. Please let this time apart have e made them better people for each other and shown them what they need to work on to make thier relationship work and give you the Glory oh God. Thank you that you alone are Magnificent, All-Knowing and Wonderful. Thank you for hearing and answering our prayers.

In your name I pray. Amen.

06/13/08 - 23:16

christian

Father, may we meditate on your WORD to submit our requests and understand it is by FAITH and not works you answer our prayers.


Mark 11:24, "Therefore I say to you, whatever things you ask when you pray, believe that you receive them and you will have them."

John 16:23, "And in that day you will ask me nothing. Most assuredly I say to you, whatever you ask the Father in My name He will give you

Philippians 4:6, Be anxious for nothing (do not worry), but in everything by prayer and supplication (earnest asking), with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God.

Father wor in this relationship and bring your WILL into their lives and guie them and speak to this couple. Press upon their hearts and yoke their hearts to your heart Lord.

May we seek you devine understanding and unconditional n unfailing love in our lives and bring healing and restoration to our relationships. Father I ask you to press upon Fresia in my life, to speak to her and open her heart to your Will and bring restoration and healing to our relationship and friendship. In Jesus Name AMEN

06/06/08 - 01:01

Gengreen

Dear Lord Jesus, I come before You today Father and I ask for Your will to be done. This relationship is secondary to what You have planned for both Caitlyn and Mike, individually. Holy Father, You have plans that are meant for each one of us individually as our service to You. I pray that Mike will hear Your voice calling him to Your purpose for him, and Lord, I pray that he let Caitlyn go to You, Lord, and that he go forward with Your wonderful plan for his life. I pray that if it be Your will, Father, that this relationship be reconciled,Lord, that You do so. Dear Lord, guide and direct Mike in continuing to hear Your call in his life. Lord, I pray that he lives for You alone Lord and that You are always #1. Lord Jesus, Heavenly Father, You are so faithful. Father God, bless Mike and Caitlyn on their separate journeys, Father, and bring them closer to You as they travel. In Your unmatched name Lord Jesus. Amen

06/04/08 - 21:35

Mike

Father, help me to continue releasing this entire situation to You...if this was indeed not the relationship that You have intended for my future, I fully trust that the beauty that we shared will only be surpassed by the relationship that is to come. I do not doubt Your power and Your promise that You will not withhold a single blessing that You have developed for my life if I remain obedient in Your will for my life. May I continue to submit to You, Lord God. Holy Spirit, intercede in this heart that yearns. May it yearn for You alone. May You be enough.

05/29/08 - 19:54

Carol Susan

Dear Mike,

I pray for you, as I am in the same place as you are. When the enemy has them blinded, all they can see is the hurt we caused them. I love when my husband says he is a "christian", yet throws all of my mistakes in my face, and wants a divorce. To them hard times, illness, sadness, death of a loved one, financial problems, adulterous affairs are a way for them to justify leaving their mate. They chose us at the altar, but when the glow wears off, they look to find contentment in other things and people. All I can advise you is to find strong friends, believers, that can pray with you. Stay in a Bible preaching church where you can be fed on God's word. You seem like such a caring husband, it is hard to pray for those who have wronged us so deeply. I pray that Caitlin will have her eyes opened by the Holy Spirit. I truly believe if Jesus is the Lord of your life, he is protecting your faith, by removing someone who can only harm you in the long run. It is God's job to work on her heart and salvation, all you can do is wait and pray. She could come back, she may never come back. That is up to her. I have been alone for over six months now. I too, loved my husband unconditionally, even though he has tried to bankrupt us and starve me. God has and will be my strength. Look at my prayer profile and see all the suffering that has taken place in my life. I am in the same boat as you. And I have met and prayed for many of this website who are like you and I, grieving for someone who has forsaken marriage vows, for whatever reason, and left. I can only ask God to comfort you. He will, if you completely let him in to do the healing in the most broken places in your heart. I am facing an upcoming divorce. I have a heavy heart, but I look forward to all God has for me, in his fullness of grace, he will bring me to new heights and you too, if you will only allow him. Continue with your ministries, do not let sadness or trials keep you from praising God, do it even when you do not feel like it. It makes the enemy mad, when we praise God in the toughest moments. God is worthy to be praised, if he never did another thing for us, he died on the cross, pardoned us from sin, and purchased eternity. What he has for you and I will far surpass any suffering we may face here on Earth. Just keep your eyes on Jesus, and take time to pray every day on this webiste for all of us who have been abandoned by our spouses. I talk to at least three other christians who are goinbg through a divorce, facing adultery by thier mate, or are alone, with no one to love or comfort them. I pray you will be a blessing to all, by your faith in Christ. Pray for your wife, that she will come to know Jesus as she should. Her very soul could be demanded of her tonight. Pray for her before it is too late, pray for her heart to be softened by God. Pray she will honor her wedding vows and come home where she belongs. Pray for God to do what is best for you....

05/29/08 - 07:22

Thomas H

Dear Heavenly Father, Please Place Your Almighty Hand Upon Mike and Speak unto his Heart, Words of Peace and Healing. Please Take his hand, Guide his steps and don't allow him to fall until he is ready.Please Bless this relationship with Caitlyn if it is Your Will for these 2 to be together and Bless this home. In Jesus Christ Perfect and Enduring Name we Pray and we Give You All of The Glory for it, Forever, AMEN.

05/28/08 - 19:19

andrew

Dear God, You have given us free will, which is a tremendous gift and responsibility, and so often a burden. Still, to obey You is to honor Your wisdom in giving us this gift. Somehow, we must learn to honor, even celebrate, choices that loved ones make that we could never agree with. We show our trust in Your wisdom when we do so. I pray that Mike can now stay in a space of readiness to accept any outcome, knowing that Your love, and ultimately Caitlyn's as well, transcends any momentary circumstance, no matter how cruel they may seem. Your son Mike has been gifted with wisdom and faith that many fall short of. Now he is being challenged to use it to the fullest, and demonstrate what a child of God can do, in imitation of Christ. Amen.

05/28/08 - 13:32

Peter & Toni

Father God,
Lord, did You love us when you destroyed the earth by flood? Did you love us when you had the Isrealites, your chosen people, wander for fourty years in the wilderness? Did you love the one that You told your people to not associate with when they continue in habitual sin (1 Cor 5:11). Did You love the unruly brother that You commanded us not to associate with? (2 Thess 3:6). The answer to those questions is, yes.

Love doesn't mean to override hurts. There are some hurts that come with consequences. Pure love can mean that a boundary is being drawn because someone loves another enough to encourage them to maturity but won't compromise their convictions when the other persists in causing harm to themselves or others.

Quite often, in our ministry, an individual comes in and they don't want to consider other's interests as more important than their own, instead, they want all others to consider the individual's interest as more important than their own. These individuals tend to live by a religious code of conduct that only picks and chooses God's principles in order to meet their own agenda. They are externally focused, they want to look good to the outside world but aren't interested in looking within themselves. One man actually said in a counseling session, "Yeah, I am trying to figure out what she can change so that she can love me more." Wrong statement. He needed to humble himself and consider what he's done to make her love him less. That would go the same whether it is a man or a woman in that position.

So, Lord God, I pray that Mike and Caitlyn both turn their focus off of themselves and finding fault in their performance toward each other and, instead, focus on You and being Your servants. That they will humble themselves before You and allow You to speak into their lives. That they don't point the fingers at each other's faults and misgivings but that they cleanse themselves from all filthiness of their own flesh (1 Cor 7:1). That they will go before You and not be hasty in word or impulsive in thought to bring up a matter in the presence of God; that they will listen rather than talk (Ecc 5:1ff).

Lord, do not allow them to do anything from selfishness or empty conceit but with humility of mind let each of them regard one another as more importan them themself and not merely look out for their own personal interest bu talso for the interest of the other (Phil 2:3-4)

Lord, the apostle Paul instructed the Philippians that the things that they had learned and received and heard and seen in him by example, he encouraged them to practice those things and that THEN the God of peace will be with them. So, Lord, instead of Mike hoping that Caitlyn would change or instead of her hoping that he would change, I pray that they each resolve to be the most amazing servant of God, taking scripture in context and loving You with their whole heart, mind, soul and strength. Then, if they both are doing this, they will be more inclined to extend the love that they have in Christ to each other...unconditionally.

I pray this in Jesus' name and by His authority. Amen.

05/28/08 - 11:04

Mike

Father, whether it be a Spirit-transformed Caitlyn with a new view of what true Christ-centered love is, or another woman of God who fits the mold that God has designed for me to be fulfilled on earth by (however impossible that may seem to me right now), I pray that You will assure me that my future is found in You. I can rest in knowing that You and the heavenly forces are mobilized and in motion right now, defeating the enemy and aligning each step that I take. Strengthen me in these promises from You, Lord.